After twenty-two years of marriage, I divorced in 2002. We were high school and later college sweethearts. He was actually the only man I’d ever really known and trusted at that time; he was my hero. Learning to stand on my own and provide for myself was foreign to me. I was terrified, but knew I had to push through my fears, I had to learn to let go of who I was (a wife), and work on becoming who I am today. But for many years I lived with anger, self-doubt, and trust issues. At that time, I didn’t believe I would ever get over failing my marriage or losing my hero. I had to learn how to let that hurt, anger and fear go. Four years ago, I lost the love of my life. She was the person who believed in me no matter what my challenges. She was the person who fought for and with me expecting only the best of my potential. She was the person that wiped my tears, celebrated my achievements, prayed for my healings, and offered the biggest cheers whenever I won. Four years ago, I lost my mother.
The month of March was and still remains the hardest month of the year for me. I still vacillate between sadness and comfort knowing she’s with the Lord. She suffered many ailments and health issues. Always in pain. She was weary, no fight left. I had to accept the fact that she was ready to go. I’ve never let go, but I’ve learned to accept the loss, and smile knowing that one day I’ll see her beautiful smile again.I offer these thoughts because recently I spoke with a dear friend who is going through exactly what I and many others have experienced. His mother is terminally ill, exhausted, and possibly ready to “go home” as we say in the south. His heart is breaking, which is quite understandable.
Another friend I have struggles with the loss of a what he thought was a deep, loving, devoted relationship. By definition never receiving closure he carries the anger and hurt and confusion of beginning again without his partner at his side. Fear has also convinced him that reconciling with an unsuitable partner could be an option. Both friends are afraid to let go.I want to encourage you that “letting go” doesn’t mean one has to forget. I pray that my friend will come to understand that there is another dimension to life, the afterlife where he will one day see the love of his life again and through the love of Christ she will be embraced, received, and never experience pain again, and he gains an angel who will forever speak to his heart and mind. I pray that my friend experiencing the lost of a relationship will come to understand that sometimes God will close a painful chapter of your life to open a door of devotion, love, respect, and companionship – as soon as he can forgive and receive the blessing God has waiting, only after his healing which requires him offering forgiveness to both his ex-companion and himself.
Remember to let the healing work of Jesus Christ come through in all the adversities, heartbreak, trauma, and difficulties you encounter on your journey. It is a comfort and peace beyond all understanding. Give Him some time today. He is so worthy! I’m praying for your healing….Amen.Give Him some time today, He's so worthy...Many blessings.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God.
Philippians 3:12-14 Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.
Comments